Shane is 43 and incarcerated in the US (NC).
I’m 43, going on 11 years in prison, and hoping to parole in under a year. So I’m hopeful that I’ll find some kind of connection to the outside world that’s not someone I’ve done time with.
Looking for someone who can relate to the urgency of a fleeting life not yet truly lived. Someone whose inner life often feels deep and lonely among the crowd, and whose first love is Life, though not only in the sun, but also in the shades of blue. I want to talk about bittersweet things, hard things, true things. Joy in melancholy just as much as interested passions.
I’m interested in relationships that live and breathe and grow into whatever they are best at becoming. I’m aiming high from this lowest of places, and hoping to form connection with a depth and a willfulness, and the capacity to create a unique space of its own.
After many years of prison it has truly sunken in: I spent a lot of my life at the bottom of a dark well, took too long to see the light, but eventually found the ways to climb – relationships, a sense of community, the expression and exploration of ideas and ideals, and the strength to be vulnerable and let yourself be seen. I’ve educated myself toward life and freedom, though I remain a prisoner.
That being said, I understand well the absurdity of looking toward such connection from prison in this society. Considering my crimes, which are truly not vanilla, it’s even more absurd. Still, I have to try and I have to – and want to – go on living. The only counter I can offer for my absurdity is the promise that I’ll be completely honest if asked about my past and what I’ve done. And that after all this time and everything I’ve learned, I’m just as repulsed by it as anyone else would be.
I laugh when I cry and bruise from a fall. Perhaps I could serve as a place of understanding to someone else who knows what it is to fall, to shatter, to gain insight through pain. I can truly understand the process of the breaking apart of identity and certainty into a thousand questions you never even know how to ask until you did the impossible work of relearning everything.
I love learning. Philosophy is a favorite of mine (more Nietzsche than Kant). Books, exercise, outdoors – actually, I’m interested in just about anything as long as it allows the participation in moments of life with another person.
Whoever you are out there, I’m excited to know you.
• Date of Birth: 09/07/1978 (43 years old)
• Gender: Male
• Marital Status: In a Relationship
• Sexual Orientation: Straight
• Race: White
• Ethnicity: Not Hispanic or Latino
• Eye Color: Brown
• Hair Color: Brown
• Height: 6 ft 3 in
• Body Type: Athletic
• Hometown: Kaysville, Utah (USA)
• Spoken Languages: English
• Religion: N/A
• Astrological Sign: Virgo
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• Incarcerated Since: 2011
• Sentence Received: 12 years to life
• Earliest Release: 2022